Hi there.. thank you for taking time to venture into my personal site... weather your friend or stranger, I am glad your here. In case you don't know, my name is Rebecca aka Becca or Becky... depends on how long I have known you. I will tell you a secret. *whispers* I HATE being called Becky. However, those that still call me that have known me since school and that is endearing... so I don't mind as much from them. 

So what can I say about myself that would be of interest... I am knocking on good ole 40's door. They often say you are as old as you feel. So I guess its fair to say some days I feel 3 and others I feel 584... I give that credit to my son who keeps me young. Here is a picture of me, this should take care of what I look like. Let's move on... Now what makes me who I am... Well lots of things I could say. I guess it boils down to people and life experiences. Without a doubt both have contributed to the works of "The Wiqued One".

I work hard and play harder, when I can. The playing hard part, not so much the older I get. Though in my youth, oh yes and I have the stories to prove it. I think the more stories one has of living, shows the life in thier years. It's important to have stories. It often reminds me how far I have come. I am divorced. I am a single parent. I have lived my life without a significant other for more years then I care to admit. To give myself a break here, it was by choice. I have not faired well in relationships. One day, maybe someone will come along that will be a fair match. I won't hold my breathe thou. Cynic... nahhhh!!

Today I live in California on the central coast. I love music of all kinds. Mostly Hard Rock/Metal. It's never too LOUD for me. Love everything from the 80's. The older I get my tastes are changing.... my metal choices have gotten harder, but ironically I am also finding I have a taste for the softer sounds too.... gosh even classical at times. I am an avid movie buff, love photos, traveling and the net. My life has lead me down many paths, however regardless weather they were all of value or not, I never lose site of the lesson in each one. I have always been able to take lemons and turn them into lemonade with an umbrella!!! Lately I heard a saying the seems more fitting.... When life gives you lemon's, screw the lemonade and go grab a beer. I will share much of my tales of triumph's and woe's with you and hopefully become someone who makes others feel less... I don't know, alone in the world. Mostly I am doing this for me... If anyone comes along and finds anything of value here, than that would be an amazing bonus. I'll take a moment now to thank you for spending this time with me. Here's to YOU!

I was born September 27 & raised in Los Angeles California's San Fernando Valley. Mostly, North Hollywood. I went to James Madison Jr. High 1982-1985 and Ulysses S. Grant High School 1985-1988. I had a moment in the fall of 1987 where I decided to tackle the real world. I dropped out. Honestly, all my friends graduated the year before and I found myself alone. I just did not want to be there anymore. It was simple, but oh so stupid. Needless to say the real world swallowed me whole. The blunders I would encountered almost landed me in a grave that I literally dug myself. One agonizing shovelful at a time. More of this tale to come later. If I forget, come find me... I'll tell all. I did survive and somehow managed to get back to school in 1989, where I graduated with honors from Jack London Continuation adjacent to Ulysses S. Grant High School. Picture of me accepting my diploma is at the bottom of the bio. Truly one of my finer moments. Happiness on this day barely covers what I felt. I was feeling complete and somehow worthy again. It made up for so much I had felt up too that point.

As I am sure you guessed, yes I was an original "Valley Girl", Like fur sure!! Oh My Gawd!!! I wore loud colors, had big hair. Here is a candid picture of me somewhere in 1986-1987. Most of my youth prior to Jr. High or High school, I had few friends and kept to myself a lot. Had a very difficult and unhappy childhood. Plus we moved a lot so I never really had a chance to maintain friends very long. I did have my sister who was everything to me. We were thick as thieves until I hit Jr. High. Then everything changed. We grew apart and I lost a lot of weight and started to experiment with life, started making my own friends and learned what growing up was all about. I was busting at the seams. Funny, when it started, no one warned it would never stop. Even now I am still growing up and eager to learn. I still have so many of those same friends I made then too.  But as life changes, so do we and the people we grow into don't always blend any longer. That's ok!!!

In the 80's  my friends were my whole world. We frequented places like the Sherman Oaks Galleria, Hollywood,  Santa Monica before the Promenade existed or at the local arcade up the street from my house where you could find me eating churros or playing Tempest, Space Invaders, Pac Man or hanging with friends gossiping. Sometimes my sister and I would just walk up to Valley Plaza and loiter in and out of the local stores. Woolworth, Sears, Licorice Pizza, Auditory Audacity, etc. Hang at the movie theatre all day dodging in and out of every movie or just hanging at the park. It was the best memories I recall of my lifetime. Sunshine and laughter. World often seemed so perfect then... As I got into my late teens and early 20's I found Glam Rock and metal. I was in love!!! In love with all of it. The guys, the hair, the make up, the clothes, the music, the atmosphere, the parties, the strip, oh man... it was intoxicating. Those roots still hold strong in my soul. Hail Rock N Roll!!!

Finally in the early 90's I started to tire of LA and the dog eat dog world there. Everything seem to be changing, even me. After several heartbreaks and lots of disappointments, not to mention the best friend of my childhood moved up north, I found myself feeling lost and broken. Something in my soul was telling me it was time for me to move on and find my own way. There was more that waited for me in the wings. I had to listen to the nagging in my heart. I needed to expand my horizons and go into the unknown and further my journey thru life. So with an invitation from the central coast and an offer to send me to college, I packed my stuff and grabbed my cat and moved to Santa Maria, Ca for a short while in 1992 and attended Alan Hancock Community College. During spring break in '92 I went to visit my friend up north and it wasn't long before I would move to there. That being Sacramento, Ca where I met the man I would marry. Together would create the ultimate being I would ever know. My son Cody. I lived in Sacramento for 13 years and found myself divorced after 3 yrs of marriage. No matter how right a decision might be, that stuff tends to go places inside you never knew existed. No matter, he and I are are still very close today and have no regret in our history together. We are now friends for life!!!

So I gathered my strength and went my own way and virtually raised my son alone. I worked hard, tried my hand at a few more relationships and made some new friends. My life changed many times, both for the better and worse in some cases. But I took what I could from each and kept going. The lessons life teaches you truly never ends. Then one day I decided it was time to move on again. I wanted to be closer to my family who mostly lived in Central Coast, Ca. So I packed my bags, grabbed my son and back to the Central Coast I went. That took place the summer of 2005. What waited for me there I could have never predicted... there was more life to experience than I ever imagined. Good, bad and ugly!! In the years to come I will watch my son grow and move on to begin his own adventures. He has become an extraordinary person, whom I am unbelievably proud of.  He has accomplished so much and has only just begun. I just love that. We have encountered many up's and down's coming here, but knowing that home in his heart is wherever we are together, means everything to me.  So everyday is a new day, new chapter and new journeys ahead... I know there is so much more waiting for us both out there...

I have many hobbies. One of my all-time favorite's is my computer. I love learning everything about computers and it's many facets . It started in 1997 when a co-worker built me a computer with leftover pieces and parts of his previous computers. What would transpire from that would be magical. Until this very day I am relentless about wanting to learn all there is about how these great machines function. I am self taught. In the last 10+ years, I can now build them. I now have extensive knowledge and understanding of most computer hardware and software. How each component contributes to each other. I also managed to learn HTML , web design and graphic design. I learn more everyday. Guess you can say I am a geek and proud of it. However, if you see my toting a pencil protector, call a doctor. FAST!

One of my odd hobbies is collecting things: One is I love bookstores. I love to buy books. See this does not seem abnormal to the everyday person, but.... I hardly ever read them. I just love to buy books and know I have them. I mean, I read them....but not like a normal person. I am more about collecting them like souvenirs. I know... don't even go there... lol... My favorite books to buy are Anne Rice books. Books on dark fantasy, fairies, autobiographies, science fiction, horror, true stories and so much more. Spooky tales of all kinds. I adore collecting the classics like Jane Eyre, Tom Sawyer and stuff like Mansfield Park. Recently bought Save Me From Myself, The Paths We Choose and The Long Hard Road Out of Hell. My newest craze is all the "ologies" books. They are fantastic. Fairyopolis, Pirateology, Mythology, Dragonology, etc. I love these books! So much fun!!!

I also collect fairies, dragons, gargoyles, candles, movies, picture frames, scrapbook decor and anything with a New Orleans feel to it. Movie memorabilia from "The Crow", "Rocky Horror", "Hellraiser" and more. Oh and anything butterflies, grapes and I love masks. Not just Mardi Gras masks, but theater, carnivale, tiki, African, tribal, Indian, voodoo and more.

Another hobby very close to my heart is photography!!!! Everything from viewing others pictures to taking my own. I love landscape, architecture, abstract, animal, people photos the best. Here are a few I took.

I am also a writer. Mostly poems and journaling. The poems I have written are primarily from when I was younger. Nowadays, I find just writing in general - so journaling is what I prefer. I tend to be better at writing then talking. So I write. A lot. I find I am able to communicate better in words on paper or screen, then spoken. I like people, but can often find myself in conflicts. So I write, instead of talk. Probably why I like working. It's my way. I enjoy writing. It takes me to a place I can feel whole and free. No limits or boundaries. No distractions or interruptions. No restrictions. I find I can keep my emotions more controlled that way. When your as emotional as me, that's a good thing.

Last, but not least, one of my favorite hobbies I have is interior design. I love to decorate. I have done my whole house. I do not have a set style or do I actually think I am any good, but I do love it. It feels wonderful. Places like Linen's N Things, Bed Bath and Beyond, even Wal-Mart decor sections, I can just escape and get lost in for hours. I see something and entire theme will explode in my head. I watch all those crazy shows about home design for ideas. Just love it. I have been told I should do this for a living, kind of like a gothic Martha Stewart or how to design on a dime, but I am not confident enough in my skills. I just do it for fun and myself. I will share pictures of my home on my photos page. You can tell me what you think.

I live my life one day at a time. One of the most amazing things I could say that has come through my life, barring the birth of my son, is something that transpired from one of my hobbies. My computer and the discovery of the internet. Without such, I would have never discovered the best friends of my life. Bri, David, Valarie, Amy, Paige and Shannon. I will share our many experiences through-out my site, as I continue to build it.

It's incredible, what once was just a few words on a screen, then a voice through some microphones in a chat room, grew into a few phone calls, became more real to me then anything I'd ever experienced. Then one day we decided it was time to meet. We all flew and drove from all over the US and we met in Alabama. The friends I had online were nothing compared to the ones I embraced and held so tight in person.... I never wanted to let go and in my heart I never have. I am not sure when it started as its been so many years now, but they are by far some of the most beloved friends of my life, who have made such huge impacts on who I am today and whom I long to be. When all else seems to fall around me, these beautiful, incredible people lift me higher and really put forth what being friends is all about. They are my true family. I believe you will grow to love them as I do. So hang around and you never know... you may make a few friends that will last you a lifetime.

Then there is my son Cody. The light of my world. The very aspect that keeps me breathing and living. How can something so powerful come wrap up in such a little person. These little people that are our children are truly a gift beyond all that we know. Never take it for granted. My son has been the single most incredible life altering aspect of my life. He has taught me more in his 16 years of being on this world then I could have ever learned on my own in 100 years. He is so smart, funny, charming, kind, thoughtful, generous, strong, witty, good, true, all heart and so much more. It's almost ironic, when I was younger the last thing I wanted was to get married and have kids. Just wasn't my style I guess. Ok so the married thing didn't work. But the parent thing??? I can't imagine my life not being Cody's mom. That makes me by far the proudest person in the universe. If I had to some up what my son does for me, it would be that he single handedly make me feel like this world is by far better with me in it... that's a pretty amazing feeling to have.

 One of the things I love to do, is to work. No joke. Sick I know. I do. I enjoy helping people and making a difference in the work place. In my 20+ years of working, I have learned so much. There is something very satisfying about putting in a full day, meeting goals, working hard, seeing progress, learning, being appreciated and respected for your craft, your contribution, sharing in the success of others, as well as myself.  I feel to work builds character and not just in the work place , but in your whole life and everything in it. It gives you a sense of responsibility, regard and decency. Most of all honor and respect in yourself. Not everyone sees this as a gift, but a burden. I am simply not one of them. I am grateful for being able to work and for my job. I always will be.

I could really keep going on and on about things, the point here is this - along the rocky path I have walked, sometimes crawled on, I have learned many things. Good, bad and the OMG!!! I truly believe life is what you make of it. Nothing comes easy. It's not suppose to. I am proud of my many accomplishments.  Even being aware of my flaws and shortcomings, I still hold my head high... always. I have nothing to prove to anyone, but myself. Then rest will follow. It's what I believe. It's how I live.  My spirit always finds it's way to the surface and shines bright. So bring it on.... BRING IT ON!!!!

You'll share in many more of my ventures as my site keeps growing and my journey through this thing called life...  as it has only begun.

I'm a movie freak. Really I am!! I have an extensive knowledge, ownership and viewing capacity of the Motion Picture. I am crazy about movies. Insane. Everything from Disney to Horror. Camp or high adventure. Cult or Fantasy. My draw is of a personal nature, more so for how lost in each movie I get, I become captured by the raw and unbridled talent I come across. Passion I often feel, see and share in characters.. And the lessons I have learned along the way. All balanced with a sense of complete fulfillment when its over. See what I mean. Nutz. Simply can not get enough. It has to be one of my all-time favorite pastimes. I enjoy others who loves movies as much as I. Makes for great conversations.

I am the same way with music IF not worse.. I take my Rock N Roll very serious... It's almost a religion in itself to me... Music gets right into those niches, that the human nature can't seem to reach sometimes. No matter how I feel music seems to be the medicine that always ails me. Please don't misunderstand. I am not a sole Rock listener. I love music from all genre's. Classical, Motown, Oldies, R&B, etc. The only music I can not stand and won't listen to is Rap or Country. I think music is one of the universal languages that connects us all... we should nurture and support it.
 
In addition, I love anything Mystical, Gothic, Victorian, Mythology, Metaphysical, Spiritual, and more. Fantasy, macabre, dark and just weird paraphernalia just encompasses me. Like wizards, dragons, fairies, gargoyles and the entire dark side period. Witches & Vampires are honestly are my favorite creatures.
 
 I am not religious, but spiritual. However, I respect all religions. I think we all could learn the more we embrace & respect each other and our differences. I find my faith more earth based than anything. Tends to lean toward a wiccan foundation. This faith is as close as I have ever come that matches what I feel on the inside naturally. I do believe in God, just in my own way. Few understand... I just have my own beliefs that enlighten, empower and keep me grounded. My faith keeps me strong and good. I believe that is what counts. I will definitely share more of this in my site.

I am just me. Nothing less and nothing more. I am very idealistic, but more realistic. I am a realist. I am very open, but opinionated. Downright stubborn at times. I can be rather dark and gothic, but in a good way. I won't bite. Then again, that depends, maybe if you ask real nice. *wink* =)   I do what makes me happy & feels right. I live by my own rules, not anyone else's. If you push me I WILL push back. If you set the tone for battle, than don't expect anything less and be willing to lose. I have strong beliefs. I am a hopeless romantic, I love girly things, I make mistakes, I never take anything for granted... it all matters. Nothing goes unnoticed in my life. NOTHING!

I believe in people and trust unconditionally until given a reason not too. TRUST IS HUGE to me... I believe the true character of a person is how one deals with a crisis. I believe who you are when no one is looking is who you REALLY are. How you talk about someone in their absence says more about you than it does them... Own your mistakes... I have NO REGRETS in life. I am who I am because it was... I am always a constant work in progress... I believe in second chances, third chances and even fourth chances. But I know when enough is enough. Nothing is forever. Cherish everything. Everything happens for a reason. Karma is very important to me.

My favorite color is purple, just the whole red family... and all variations. I always wear black. My favorite flower is a blue rose.. My dream car is a Ford Mustang GT. Favorite place in the world is Disneyland. My favorite football team is the RAIDERS. Is that enough yet?? Ack... even I am sick of me now...

Thank You so much for your kind interest and time. Hopefully it's enough to keep you coming back.
You got this far you deserve a hug. After all, we are friends now. LOL!

Until next time my precious friend. Enjoy your stay and please stop by again.... and Sign My Guest Book. It's always nice to know who's stopped by.

Take Care and Blessed Be!